Tenet 3

TENET 3We are each unique and innately worthy of respect. 

Every human being has worth and value, irrespective of someone’s current situation (nationality, race, sex or gender, size, health, age or so on). Our individual worth is not conditional upon external factors, rather, we are inherently and naturally worthy of safety, goodness, and respect.

This understanding, however, is being greatly challenged throughout a society that has become increasingly abusive and commodifying. Commodification is the idea that people are worthwhile so long as they serve an instrumental purpose deemed worthy by some arbitrary external source. For example, a woman is only beautiful if she meets certain arbitrary societal expectations related to beauty. Not only is this untrue, this is a dangerous and dark place to be as a society because it posits people as only having extrinsic worth, and this often leads to the idea that people are like things that can be bought, sold, traded, or enslaved for financial gain or power. This directly works against what it means to be human and humane.

As this commodifying culture becomes more pervasive, our cottages will have the opportunity to be a light, and shine against the contrasting darkness. This is perhaps one of the greatest messages we will share with others, that they are special and deserving of love, safety, and community. As we share this message, we will attract those who wish to join with us who likewise seek to acknowledge the infinite worth of souls, and the irreplaceability of individuals.  

Women and men who understand their internal worth will build relationships with one another highlighting this truth. Inequalities and personal differences can then be addressed in harmonious and positive ways.  As we seek to internalize and then share this tenet with the world, we will heal much suffering.

Activity suggestion:

Look at each woman in your group and allow someone or several to say something about this woman that discloses her unique and personal gifts. Take turns. If possible, write down the messages shared. Share them with us! We want to get to know the special women in your group! You are each valuable beyond measure!

  • What is something that she is good at?
  • How is she making her community a better place?
  • Why is she one of a kind?
  • What is something that you admire about her?
  • What difficulty has she had to overcome in her life that makes her a hero?  
  • If you could wish one good thing for her, what would it be?
  • In what ways can you support and encourage her everyday?


Discussion Questions

  • What ways can you share this tenet with others?
  • Who can reach out to, to let them know they are special?
  • How can you bring this knowledge out in yourself when you feel down?