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Back when I was first married, my sweet husband suggested we go to the tennis courts and he would teach me to play tennis. I was excited at the idea and willingly agreed. It did not take long, after swinging the racket and missing, hitting the net, or lobbing the ball way over his head, for me to become completely frustrated and want to stop trying. I was so irritated at something that should not be that difficult!! 


Fast forward to when our first child was just barely walking, yet insisted on taking the stairs like a big boy before his legs were quite long enough to do so! I would repeatedly remind him to turn around on his belly and go feet first. He was born prematurely, was far more developed mentally than he was physically, and wanted so much to be the big boy he thought he was in his head! I couldn’t blame him and eventually let him take that last step off the baby playground the way he wanted to (onto the foamy turf, of course)! A few tumbles of that, and he realized he preferred Mommy’s way after all. 


In these instances I realized two examples of the same lesson: we get where we’re going by degrees, and demanding instant success isn’t realistic. 


Like a seed that grows, like the sun that rises, like the seasons that change, time needs the space to make its alterations in the necessary ways! If we insisted a plant grow overnight, it would surely lack the cellular or nutritional integrity that we would need it to have in order to serve us the way it was designed. If the sun popped up in the sky like a bouncy ball, the storms and extreme weather we would experience would throw us into a supernatural level of natural disaster! And we’ve all seen what happens when the seasons can’t decide whose turn it is, and we lose the crops we depend on or put away our snow pants too soon. 


I live in a country where the general culture is to rush to accomplish things, only so that we can cram in and do more. But is that what we really want? Does more truly mean better? Or would it do us well to slow down, to do less in order to do better? And I’m not simply meaning adding value or quality to the task itself, but also to add value and quality to our lives in general, to our wellbeing as humans. 


Naturally this causes me to reflect on the season I’m in now and how much quality or value I have currently. Can I slow something down, eliminate or alter my compliance with the culture I’m in, in order to better live the gift of life that I have? What growth do I need to give time to rather than feel frustrated by it? That the growth might bring me to the place I’m meant to be, rather than the status I want to have. How about you?